Journey to a Healthier Me

Recently, I started my fitness journey with my younger brother. Most people in my daily life ask what am I doing to lose the weight, and what is the motivation.  Before this year my motivation was always to look good for the summer. To be skinny and rock a two piece in the summer.

This year something has changed. I stopped focusing on my looks and started to focus on my overall health. This is where the change took place for me. I have noticed that each workout and each week, I may not look different in the mirror, but I am indeed getting stronger. I can hold a forearm plank longer. Do a little bit more each workout.  My muscles are growing.

Being able to see my gains without a scale has been the biggest improvement.  The reality happens to be that I have lost weight. In the past, I would be disappointed in my weight loss because it is not the amount I would prefer. Instead of comparing myself to other people, I am constantly comparing myself to who I was yesterday and who I can become tomorrow.

Losing weight and living a healthier life style is hard work and requires dedication, but a positive attitude makes the difference between quitting and picking myself up after binges. So the journey keeps going. Each day is a new battle to be won.  I do not know what tomorrow  will bring, but I know that I will keep striving to be the best me possible!

-KP

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Kindness does not need Validation

So I recently discovered a pet peeve of my own, and decided to share. My older sister lives in a secured building. The building is an income based apartment complex.  The guards that are employed are all there regularly, and start to build relationships with the tenants and regular guests. Although I could probably give a thousand stories about these wonderful guards, this will probably be the first and last.  One of the regulars always bring in extra snacks and food for the kids that live in the building.  Honestly he gave me more hope in humanity. As I was leaving one day, we happened to start talking because after I cleaned snow off my car, a little kid came over to my car and offered to help clean it off for a small fee.  Although the kid asked for two bucks and could not even reach halfway up my car, I allowed him to help me clean off the car and in reward I bought him a hot chocolate and gave him the change from a twenty dollar bill.  Before I left that guard asked if I was going to take a picture with the kid or post about the occurrence on social media. After talking with this guard for a while, I found out that he takes pictures of his “good deeds”, and has gained followers and recognition from his actions.

This man openly said that he loves all the positive feedback and it pushes him to do “more”. I love that he is helping others, but I could not help but question his motives. Does he perform random acts of kindness just to gain more followers and more likes?

The sad part is that the more that I think about the subject, I have realized that it has became a trend. People perform these great acts of kindness, but seem to post about the occurrence, video the “random act”, or take pictures with the people they helped. Why do people need others to validate their actions? Why has this become a trend?

Personally, I probably will never understand the need for validation. On a daily basis, I perform tasks that are thankless and goes without ever being noticed by anyone.  Being a good person does not need validation. Being a kind human and treating everyone like they are important does not need others approval or acknowledgment.  My satisfaction is knowing that each day I make a difference in this big world, no matter how small!

So I have a challenge to anyone willing to hear my rants. Go out and perform random acts of kindness, even if it is as small as giving a compliment to a stranger. Just one small random act of kindness can improve your day and your overall attitude as well as will help others.

Make today great for your self and others. Put out good vibes and always remember everyone is fighting their own battles.

Until next time!

-KP

I am not an Exception

The other day, one of my good friends put a post on Facebook explaining why he is not an exception.  He made a great point and an important remark that I feel should be shared to the masses. He wrote the following:

“I am not an exception. I repeat, I am NOT an exception!

Now that I have your attention, here are a few reasons why. I am NOT an exception for:

– Pursuing higher education
– Being educated!!!
– Being able to hold a deep and insightful conversation on complex or controversial topics
– Having goals and a plan to obtain them

An exception is defined as, “a person or thing that is excluded from a general statement or does not follow a rule.” So being that none of my above examples should come as shocking for a person in their mid 20’s, I am not an exception. Pretty simple right?

Unfortunately, my melanin causes some peoples logic program to malfunction and they throw an “exception” label on me because it’s tough to comprehend. Though, I could understand it, you know, if I was the first black person to do it. Maybe even the first from “the hood” with dreadlocks and tattoos, but I’m not. All I’ll say is, if my computer program kept throwing exceptions, I’d rewrite my program. Though, even with the many instances of black excellence that occur daily, I can honestly say I’m not surprised people still believe there are just a few “exceptions.” Cause between the media and unfortunately the actions of some of our community members (yes, we have to own up to our own part in this situation), that “general statement or rule” will continue to reign.

There are thousands upon thousands more individuals like me, and more being born each day. We are determined to achieve greatness in whatever form it takes in our personal lives, and are willing to use all of resources to do so. I thought that was the “American Dream”!

So let the world know, WE are NOT exceptions.

Changed minds change lives. #geniusmentality” 

I repeatedly write and rally against stereotypes, and the placement of imaginary boxes society places upon people, but I have always allowed people to reference my achievements as an exception. I am constantly reminded that many people of my race with similar socioeconomic background never end up going to college or having the opportunities that have been presented to me.  As I am constantly fighting against the boxes society has created, I have never pushed against the reality that, I am not an exception. I am not a lone wolf. I am one of many educated African Americans. I am one of many black Americans that pursue a higher education, who land a decent job, or that can have a meaningful conversation.  In comparison about 33% of African Americans pursue higher education compared to 41% of whites.  Over 1/3 of the African American population pursues higher education, and this percent is constantly growing each year. 1/3 of a population is not an exception.  When will society wipe away the rules on what is normal for a person of a specific race? When will  a person stop being defined by their pigmentation? When will we all realize that we are not a product of our race, our past, our socioeconomic status?  These factors may help create our personality, our determination, our being, and our outlook on life, but it does not make anyone an exception. Instead it allows us to prove that pushing barriers reaps great rewards, and anyone can live the American dream.  The next time you want to give someone a pat on the back and tell them they are an exception, remind yourself how many people overcome the same obstacles.

To my dear friend who wrote this enlightening post. You are right, you are not an exception, but yet you are still exceptional. The definition of exceptional: to describe something that is unusual; not typical. You are not exceptional because of your circumstance or your accomplishments as a black man, but you are exceptional because you are enlightened beyond your years. You are exceptional because you treat people with dignity and respect. You are exceptional because you set goals that are bigger than yourself, and you never rest until you get there. You are exceptional because you are not the typical guy with dreads who made it out of the hood, but an enlighten young guy who never allows others to put his accomplishments in a box.  Your genius mentality is inspiring to so many.

-KP

Life is like a box of chocolate

When I was younger, I watched the movie Forrest Gump. Like most people, the line the grabbed my attention was “my mama always said, Life is like a box of chocolate you never know what you are going to get”. Until recently, I did not agree with Mrs. Gump,  I believed that we could carve our destiny and future through hard work and dedication to our dreams.  Although I still believe in the ideals of setting your own path and that you are in control of your dreams, life has a way of carving a path you would never imagine for yourself.  Lately I have been dead focused on my career and success that I have imagined for myself. I have this high standard that I believe I must obtain to be successful and happy.  I have to lose so much weight, eat healthy, have a good career, make my parents proud, and so forth. Within all these goals to success, I forgot that these things will not truly contribute to my happiness. Being skinny with a great career will not keep me warm at night. Having a perfect life with the absences of laughing and people to share everything with is not true happiness.

True happiness comes from within. It is accepting our limitations while still pushing to be the best version of ourselves. It is finding someone who enjoys our imperfections and will eat pizza on a Friday night instead of someone who wants a perfect body.

Jerome Cole stated it best in the video below: minutes 10-11:30 and the end 22 till the end

http://www.hotnewhiphop.com/jcole-j-cole-interview-with-tavis-smiley-new-video.33108.html

I cannot tell you what life has in store for me each day. Life is truly like a box of chocolate. I never know what I am going to get day to day but at least I know it will be sweet, and at least I can look forward to a little bit of chocolate.

 

KP

Let’s talk Politics

Most people who read my posts, and small stories assume that I am a hard core feminist, black-lives matter, Muslim loving democrat.  I am not going to say all of this is false. What I would like to point out is that I am a social activist that believe in equal rights for all, but here is a spoiler: I am not a democrat.

I am called out all the time about being a lib/dem. Honestly I am not offended, and will not correct you on the subject because it shows a high level of ignorance when I’m fighting for human rights and asking the government to stop infringing on our rights guaranteed by the Constitution.

To spell it out and for the record. I am a libertarian. (with a strong emphasizes on constitutionalism)

Libertarian: noun keeping republicans out of my bedroom and democrats out of my wallet. 

Okay I am just joking on the definition although  it seems quite fitting at times. But a true definition on behalf of the Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Definition of libertarian

  1. 1:  an advocate of the doctrine of free will

 

2a :  a person who upholds the principles of individual liberty especially of thought and action

2b capitalized :  a member of a political party advocating libertarian principles

So simply I advocate free will and individual liberty without government restraints. I am pro-choice, equal rights, cut spending, stop universal healthcare, free market, equal marriage laws, separation of church and state, no immigration bans, and so on.

I believe that each person should should share the same exact rights, and they should be in charge of their own bodies.  I believe in limiting the government, the right to bear arms, never sacrificing freedom for security, spreading love and not hate into the world.

This does not mean that I am advocating to force each church to perform same sex marriage, this does not mean that I am going to get an abortion if I have unprotected sex one night.  It simply means that just because I hold my own christian beliefs, that my personal beliefs should not affect any other person around me.  Another’s woman to use birth control and have an abortion is not my choice. I am not in her shoes. I do not know her story. I cannot tell her how to treat her body. IT IS NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS!

With that said if you ever read one of pieces or see a status and decide to email me or message me about spreading lies to legitimize democrats or calling me whatever name it seems appropriate to you, just remember I believe in equal rights and choices under the law, but that does not dictate what I would do personally with my own body. Everyone deserves the right to choose for themselves regardless if it is religious beliefs, abortion, owning a gun, marrying their significant other, and so forth.

Liberty and Freedom to all!

Freedom and Security

Within the past few years, I have learned an important lesson about social media. Not every person you meet spend their time educating themselves before spewing nonsense onto posts. Due to the fact that most people do no educate themselves on many topics, I will rarely engage in a debate on a topic.

Yesterday I violated every rule that I every set for myself in regards to social media.  There was the usual political stuff flooding my news feed when I came across a post by an acquaintance from college. He placed an article about a woman who had died waiting on the current immigration ban to be lifted to receive medical treatment.  Of course he had a nice “liberal” (what most Americans would call liberal not my definition) anti-trump message to accompany the article. For some odd reason under the comments a guy commented on the post stating that she would have received medical attention if it was not for 9/11, Boston bomber, and so many other attacks (most of them were domestic unfortunately making his comment invalid to begin with). For some reason every fiber of my being pushed me to respond.  I could not help myself. To save you a lengthy read, and save you the ignorant responses that were given, I will simply explain what triggered my response, and some information to understand why I responded (and the other gentleman that helped debunk the ignorant answers given by this young man)

Okay, lets first break down the issue area.

Issue: President Trump signed an executive order that was intended to protect the country from foreign terrorist that would enter the United States. The EO imposes a 90-day travel ban on citizens of seven predominately Muslim countries that include Iraq, Syria, Iran, Sudan, Libya, Somalia, and Yemen. The order also suspends the U.S. Refugee Admissions Program for 120 days. In addition, it indefinitely prohibits Syrian refugees from entering the U.S. The order calls for a review of the visa and refugee programs, arguing that “numerous foreign-born individuals have been convicted or implicated in terrorism-related crimes since September 11, 2001.” The entry of Syrian refugees and citizens from the seven predominately Muslim countries is “detrimental to the interests of the United States,” the order says, using the language of a federal law that the president cites as legal authority to act.

To start and to not hide my opinion in a ton of misguided facts and information. Placing any sort of ban on citizens of a certain country because of religious affliction is WRONG.

Now it’s time to explain my blatant and obvious objection to the ban.

President Trump claimed to be placing a ban on seven predominate Muslim nations to protect our country from foreign terrorist that would enter the United States. To start there are 1.6 billion Muslims in the world, and ranks Islam as the second most populous religion behind Christianity. It is currently the fastest growing religion in the world and is expected to surpass Christianity within the next few decades.  According to research most Muslims in multiple countries around the world state they condemn ISIS and see radical in a negative light, and believe that suicide bombing and mass killings in the name of Islam are rarely or never justifiable actions.  In many cases, people in countries with large Muslim populations are as concerned as Western nations about the threat of Islamic extremism, and have become increasingly concerned in recent years. Research proves time after time that Islam overall is a peaceful religion that does not condone violence and mass murder without cause.

Although research proves that Islam is not a violent religion, and many Muslims do not condone the behavior that is portrayed by small violent factions that promote destruction throughout the world, people are still placing the blame and a ban on states that are heavily Muslim.  What grinds my gears is the fact that people place the blame on one religion but overlook all the Christian terrorist that commit crimes in the name of God.  Like ISIS, the Army of God promotes and executes violence within society in the name of God. This radical Christian group kidnaps doctors and their families, bombs abortion clinics, and participate in mass killings of innocent bystanders at planed parenthood centers. Why are we not condemning every person of the christian faith. When I wear a cross around my neck, I do not get shy looks or sideways glances. People do not anticipate me to cause harm to them. Why is there a prejudice?

Now back to the topic, a ban on these countries only increases the racism and prejudices that are already perpetuated within American culture.  It allows people to continue to treat Muslims as a lower class. Within our history, America has been plagued with limiting rights for one group and always has the most asinine reasons to justify limiting the rights and freedoms that are the founding principals of the our country.  One day we all need to wake up and realize that we are all part of the Human Race. We all generally share the general goal of living in a world that is not plagued by war, money, and violence regardless of race, religion, creed, or location.

My second issue is the prohibiting Syrian refugees. Many people believe that these people are terrorists or are gaining entry into the country to live off welfare.  Here is a few facts. On average it takes two years for a refugee to gain clearance into the United States. The interview and clearance process is demanding and requires an absolutely perfect application without flaw. Also less than 1% of refugees are considered for entry into the United States. Listed below is the current vetting process for refugees.

1. Registration with the United Nations.

2. Interview with the United Nations.

3. Refugee status granted by the United Nations.

4. Referral for resettlement in the United States.

The United Nations decides if the person fits the definition of a refugee and whether to refer the person to the United States or to another country for resettlement. Only the most vulnerable are referred, accounting for less than than 1 percent of refugees worldwide. Some people spend years waiting in refugee camps.

5. Interview with State Department contractors.

6. First background check.

7. Higher-level background check for some.

8. Another background check.

The refugee’s name is run through law enforcement and intelligence databases for terrorist or criminal history. Some go through a higher-level clearance before they can continue. A third background check was introduced in 2008 for Iraqis but has since been expanded to all refugees ages 14 to 65.

9. First fingerprint screening; photo taken.

10. Second fingerprint screening.

11. Third fingerprint screening.

The refugee’s fingerprints are screened against F.B.I. and Homeland Security databases, which contain watch list information and past immigration encounters, including if the refugee previously applied for a visa at a United States embassy. Fingerprints are also checked against those collected by the Defense Department during operations in Iraq.

12. Case reviewed at United States immigration headquarters.

13. Some cases referred for additional review.

Syrian applicants must undergo these two additional steps. Each is reviewed by a United States Citizenship and Immigration Services refugee specialist. Cases with “national security indicators” are given to the Homeland Security Department’s fraud detection unit.

14. Extensive, in-person interview with Homeland Security officer.

Most of the interviews with Syrians have been done in Jordan and Turkey.

15. Homeland Security approval is required.

16. Screening for contagious diseases.

17. Cultural orientation class.

18. Matched with an American resettlement agency.

19. Multi-agency security check before leaving for the United States.

Because of the long amount of time between the initial screening and departure, officials conduct a final check before the refugee leaves for the United States.

20. Final security check at an American airport.

That must seem simple right? Wrong. This is a long tedious process. Throughout the process these refugees are being examined by multiple U.S. agencies to determine that they are not in fact a threat to our society. After a refugee enters the United States, they are not able to live free off of our “precious” tax dollars. Did you know that refugees must pay back the cost of their flight to the U.S. after finding a job, or that refugees do not get long-term subsidized housing. All refugees pay back their flight into the U.S. Each refugee receives a stipend of $1,000 to cover three months in a suitable apartment. After three months they must find a way to afford rent on their own. All refugees must apply for jobs after entering the United States. Luckily Syria was a lower middle-income country before war, therefore many refugees are educated and trained.  This allows for refugees to apply for better and more stable jobs within the States. So to cut my rant short, refugees do not get an easy road. These people are placed through extensive checks to insure our safety. What more do we need to do?  What more can we ask for? Why ban people in need?

I will stand for the right to treat each human being with dignity and respect until they prove to not be worthy of my respect regardless of race, color, religious beliefs, political beliefs (unless you spew garbage that cannot be backed up with facts or is outright untrue),  or ethnic background.

I will always preach that are country was founded on freedom for all, and a place with a rich history of immigration. I will end with two important quotes one is by Emma Lazarus, and is placed on the beautiful lady liberty, and ideals I stand by:

“Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed, to me:
I lift my lamp beside the golden door.”

And lastly a quote by dear old Ben Franklin “Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety.” If you are going to allow the government to control our lives and determine who comes into the country to make it safer, you are essentially allowing the government to control other aspects of your life to insure safety. Every day I will choose Freedom over Safety. How safe our we under a government that will determine what we do and who should be allowed the freedom granted under the constitution.

I will end with a simple statement: Stop promoting safety over freedom, Let Freedom Ring!

-KP

Here is video to reinforce it all https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9dwHYu_EK4  #meetamuslim

Dear Mr President

Dear President Trump,

I have constantly rallied against your campaign while you were running for president. To my dismay you became president.  After you became president-elect, although I still adamantly was disgusted by the election result, I have decided that you have won the electoral college (an elite system that was created to only allow certain individuals vote for the actual president) I would still respect your title as president.  With that said I may respect your title, but you disgust as human being.

Although you promised to get career politicians put, you in fact have become the epitome of a politician.  You promised during your election “to make america great again”.  My first question is what made american great in the past. Depending on the person, there will be a diverse amount of answers, but to make this letter short, lets take this to the core values of America. What made America great is the fact that are values in our country is the freedom and democracy.  As you have only been in office a few days and seem to continuously attack one the main core values of America.

You silenced government agencies’ twitter pages, have them taking down certain pages to accommodate your philosophies,  you have condemned women for exercising their right to assemble.  This is not America. This is not Freedom. This is not democracy. THIS IS ONE MAN CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING THE GOVERNMENT!  This is what happens in communist, oligarchies, and under dictators.   How are you making America Great again?

Here is a small piece of advice from someone who does not identify as either a republican or democrat.  Put your own big-headed opinions aside and listen to the concerns and cries of your fellow Americans.  What would make America great is to stop the government from infringing on our basic rights.  Allow people to make their own choices in regards to their body. Stop allowing watchdog agencies to tap into my computer because I smear your name. Stop thinking I am an uneducated person because my opinions differ from yours.  Accept that america is great because we are a melting pot of people.  Stop worrying about building a wall to keep people out, and build a society that does not need to be a police state, but rather a community that will expel the negative (which right now includes you).  Stop worrying about the numbers at your inauguration, and worry more about the fact that this country was built on a separation of church and state which never seems to correlate to laws that do not directly violate our freedom to practice any religion that we shall believe. Stop telling me about your christian values when you cannot even stay married to the same woman without divorce. I guess what I am saying is stop being you. Stop saying you are going to make America Great when you are just proving to be just as hypocritical as any other politician in office.

So even if you will not make America Great, I will continue to make America great again through my daily actions. I will continue to spread love and understanding. Instead of blaming people for having a difference of opinion than me, I will listen and learn from their knowledge of the subject.  I will listen and be understanding even when I disagree because that is the ultimate form of respecting someone else.  I hope within the next four years that you prove me wrong, and you truly make America a great place to live again.

Well I will conclude with talk to you later Mr. President. I hope you will hear my message and many other Americans cry for a Greater America.

 

Truly yours,

KAT

New Year, New Me!

Over the past year, I took a back seat to writing and social media overall.  With the new year, I decided it is time to make big changes in my life.  I am ready to start a new journey and a new path including returning to social media.

Within the past two months, I have made some major changes in my life. I have changed jobs, I have moved, and recently began my journey on becoming a better healthier me. This journey is physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.

Starting slightly after the new year, I began a fitness journey and new living arrangements that included my younger brother.  Although we bicker and fight about everything, we have been a constant motivation to one another. Over the next few days and months you will hear more about my journey, and random adventures that My younger brother and I embark on.

Please enjoy a few laughs on the way, and enjoy our videos!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCI7OzL24dnSb3AXg104FXDQ

Sincerely,

Kate

 

Sometimes it is a little too late

Dear Dad,

I always have so many things I want to tell you, but I never seem to be able to articulate my thoughts properly, but either way there are so many things I have left unsaid.  To start I want to thank you for shaping me into the person I have become. Without your absence, I would never have discovered my strength, independence, or passion to have a fulfilling life.  You have taught me that at the end of the day you must depend on yourself before you depend on others.

Although I have found so many wonderful qualities in your absence, I have also discovered the demons that lie within myself.  From all of your broken promises, absence, and disappointment, I begin building a wall around myself. I promised to never allow another person to hurt me the way that you have repeatedly hurt me.  I have shut out so many people and have closed myself off to love and the opportunity to be loved. There were so many times, that I could have opened up to someone and had a life changing experience, but the fear of that person leaving or not caring enough was more overpowering. Sometimes I fear that I will never truly trust someone  because you broke me so many times.  It was your job to show me how to open up to people and all the experiences that life has to offer,but you were no where to be found.

I also allowed myself to accept that being second is okay. You have consistently placed me second in your life behind your girlfriends, work, your spouses children, your other responsibilities. I was never your first priority.  I went so long being okay with being placed second. Allowing to be others after thought. You had me think that I was not good enough, even my best efforts were not enough for you. I had to learn for myself that I am not a consolation prize. I am an amazing person worth knowing. I have so much to offer the world rather than being number two.

I can honestly say that I forgive you, but you simply do not hold a place in my life anymore.  I have shut off the part of my life where I allow others to make me feel unworthy of them.  As you constantly try to make an appearance in my well stable life, the shoe is now on the other foot. I do not have time to squeeze you into my busy schedule, you are not my first priority, my wall is already built, and I am done being hurt.

I know that you tell people that you don’t understand why I will not talk to you or give you a chance, or the times that you take credit for the person I have become.  My accomplishments you tell people about.  All of the things I have done through hard work and dedication that you take credit for.  You can keep the credit.  You can keep pretending that you have been a part of my life and have contributed to my accomplishments. The truth is that I stopped caring a while ago.

All of this may sound bitter and harsh, but I no longer feel anger towards you.  I truly feel sorry that you will never understand how broken you have really made me.  Of course this does not cover even half of what I really wanted to say, but its my way of ending all the thoughts that are trapped within my mind. And starts to answer the question “why am I so absent?”.  I’m absent because you were absent.

This is the beginning of my new found freedom.

 

XOXO

Kat

 

Love is Love: Raising Children

Recently, I was discussing with a group of coworkers about the fact that I am currently not interested in pushing out a baby.  Before I continue I am not against having children, but as of right now children are not in the cards for me. So to continue on with the story.  Everyone in the group chuckled and told me that I will most likely going have a kid, and we started discussing how raising children in modern society is a huge task, and some of the harsh realities of society today.  During this conversation, my supervisor stated “KP, you must not want children because you would dread the day when your son tells you he is gay, I mean look at all these homosexual and transgender children nowadays.”

At first, I was a little upset at the fact that my supervisor thought I was closed minded. I was also shocked that he assumed that when I talked about how modern society has destroyed the traditional childhood experience he thought I was referring to subjects such as the above.  This statement plagued me that entire night because deep down inside when I really thought about it he was absolutely right.

I consider myself open minded, but I would be completely mortified if my son came home and sat me down to tell me he is attracted to men.  I would feel that I failed as a parent.  I failed to show my son the right way to live life.  The plain and simple truth is my son should not have to sit me down and have a conversation about the person he loves or is attracted to.  He should not have to declare to me or anyone else who he is as a person.  He should not have to “come out of the closet”.  As a parent I would want my son to causally introduce me to his boyfriend without forewarning me of his gender.  I would want to raise my son to know that love is love no matter what.  I want to have that relationship with my children, where my son comes home gushing to me about his latest crush regardless of race, gender, ethnicity, economic status, or any other factor that separates all of us individuals within the human race.  Simply I would want my son or daughter to live a life that resembles their true personality, and to have children that never need to worry about the negative connotations in society regarding love and sexuality.

Moral of the story, my supervisor was right in all the wrong ways.  I am not afraid for my kids to be different from the norm, I am afraid to be a mother that raise children who think that being different or loving the same gender or a different race is not acceptable. I want them to grow up in a household that shows them that love is love no matter what, and I will be more than thrilled to meet person they decide to share their heart with. To my future children (although honestly I am okay with not having any devils) never fear that I will be closed minded and love whomever your heart desires.