College Bucket List

As I am finishing up my college career, I have made so many great memories, and have so much to show the world.  My first semester of college, I decided to make a bucket list to finish before I completed college.  Most things are quite simple.  Here is part of my bucket list, and I would encourage any person currently in college or on their way to college to create your own.

  1. Do a keg stand.
  2. Stay up all night with a friend without doing any homework
  3. Join a club or organization that is out of your comfort zone or you only have a slight interest in
  4. Do something reckless
  5. Take something unimportant from every Fraternity or Sorority house
  6. Do something bold and unexpected
  7. Do something crazy to your style/hair
  8. Grab onto any chance to travel
  9. Leave the country
  10. Go to a school hosted event/attend class intoxicated
  11. Drink an alcoholic beverage in an academic building
  12. Dance on a stripper pole
  13. Dance like no one is around in public
  14. Do something you will regret the next day
  15. Attend at least one event from each sport- show some school spirit
  16. Hit on someone that you feel is “out of your league”
  17. successfully day drink
  18. complete a full power hour
  19. Take a shot without gagging
  20. throw up from drinking
  21. Skip a full day of classes and give yourself a day of rest
  22. have a drink thrown at you
  23. Call out a professor and stand your ground on your opinion
  24. have a drink with someone who has instructed your class
  25. protest something you are passionate about
  26. tell someone other than your immediate family member you love them
  27. Ace a final exam
  28. Spend a weekend sober
  29. sleep outside
  30. drink wine and beer like a champ
  31. Make a playlist with all your favorite songs from freshman year through senior
  32. Study on the quad
  33. make a ridiculous bet
  34. steal a traffic sign
  35. Drink around a bonfire
  36. Road trip
  37. win a game of beer pong or flip cup
  38. take a piece of clothing of someone random (your choice to hook up with them or not)
  39. Stay at a bar until it closes
  40. talk to 15 random strangers at a party and actually get to know each person

I have successfully completed most of my bucket list and plan to finish it by the end of my college career.  There are about ten more on my list that I have excluded because they are specific to my college.  The point is to put things on the list that you would only dare to do. Push your limits and step outside of your comfort zone.  I would rather regret embarrassing myself rather than regret not being able to do something I could have done. This is the best time period in your life, create memories and friendships that will last a life time.  Have fun and create your own list of things to complete before you leave your college institution. Don’t live wishing you would have done all of those crazy things, actually go out and do them.

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What I Wished I Would have Known My Freshman Year

One of the best decisions that I have made along my journey called life would be attending a small liberal arts college.  When entering college, the best advice I was given was to truly live and to make memories that will last a life time.  So far college has been one of the most life altering times that I have ever experienced.  It has taught me so much about life and becoming an adult, but here are a few things that I wish I would have known before entering college. 

  1. College is really expensive.

This one might be obvious, but there were so many hidden expenses that came as a huge surprise. I wish I had saved my entire high school career instead only my senior year.

  1. Being broke is an essential part of being a college student.

Almost everyone is broke in college. It is the way of life. Living on $25 a month is common among your peers.

  1. It is a time to redefine yourself.

This is a time that you can start to explore those interest that you always wanted to do.  That new hair style, go for it.  You are starting school on an empty slate, you can be whoever you want to become.

  1. Join new clubs

Do not get stuck being that person who stays in their room shut off from the world. There is a club for everything in college. The only way to meet new people and have memories that will last a lifetime is to try new things and join clubs.  If you want to go Greek, than do it. Do not limit yourself. Do whatever you put your mind to it.

  1. Be open-minded

One that note, do not judge anything before you try it for yourself. Do not put down an organization or club before you have tried it.  This is a time for exploration.  The more open you are  to new things, the more you are able to experience.

  1. Take advantage of all the free items offered

Anything that is free is for me, should be your attitude while in college.  You will learn that if you can save a few dollars by getting a free meal than take advantage of it.  Also if the school offers anything free, nine times out of ten you have already paid for it through you tuition.  Take the free stuff.

  1. Do not let whoever you were in high school determine who you are in college.

You may have been at the top of your class in high school, but this does not make you the smartest person in college. You may have been the biggest loser, but this is a time to become a social butterfly.  you may have been someone who got by, but college is time to change this.  Whatever people thought about you throughout your high school no longer applies.  You are truly anyone that you want to be.  Again you have a clean slate; you are who you want to be.

  1. Do not allow people to judge you.

Make decisions because it is what you want to do.  Do not let anyone make you feel inferior for the decisions you make.  If you want to go and party. Do it. If you would rather stay in on weekends and watch Netflix. Do it. Do not let anyone allow persuade you that what you are doing is unacceptable.

  1. Do not judge other people.

On that same note, do not judge others who are different from you.  There are enough judgmental people in the world, and they may be judging you so be the better person and accept the differences in the world.

  1. Surround yourself with people you inspire to be.

In case you are not aware, the two people who you spend the most people with is how the entire world views you.  If you think about that for two seconds, than realize that you are a direct reflection of the people you choose to spend the most time with, so you should try to strive to be the best you can be.

  1. College is not what it seems like in the movies.

You know how you see people being young, wild, and free in the movies.  Well that is really true and it so much more. I am just kidding.  College is not all about the parties and fun times.  There are really good times and parties, but there is also a lot of studying and hard work.  I have never seen a movie be able to portray the amazing experience that college really is.

  1. Try not to procrastinate

I am the queen of procrastinate, but this is one habit that is not suitable in college because there is way too much to do, and you will regret it.

  1. All nighters are bound to happen.

I will not give you an upside to this one.  All nighters suck. There is nothing you can do to avoid it. When it happens embrace it.  Not just do you need to embrace it, but bring tons of caffeine.

  1. Grades are not the Holy Grail.

As long as you learned a ton in the class, and did the best that you could possibly do than that should be the most important aspect.  Also if you approach each class in this manner, you will most likely achieve better grades.

  1. *Warning this one is more for the ladies: Do not major in your MRS.

There is so much more than just being in a relationship. Stop looking for Mr. Right or Mrs. Right (for the guys) and focus on yourself. After you focus on yourself you will find the person that you are meant to be.

  1. Get to know Alum, and attend networking events.

The more people who you connect with the more doors you will be opening for your future.

  1. Do not schedule really early classes if you can help it.

Even if you were a morning person before, this will slightly change in college.  You will stay up late no matter what. It may be for homework purposes or just relaxing with good friends.

  1. Time management is the key to success in college.

Most people hear about college consisting of three things sleep, good grades, and a social life.  They also say that you can only fit two of these three things within the time that you have.  This is both true and false.  College actually consists have a hundred different things and if you are amazing and dedicated sleep is most likely the last thing on the priority list until you become so stressed out that you break down and decide to sleep and avoiding all twenty thousand other things that you need down.   Honesty a good night sleep for me consists of approximately three to four hours a night and a half hour nap throughout the day.

  1. Napping is your best friend.

Embrace the nap time.  You will wake up in the morning planning a good time to take a nap.  Your life begins to rotate around these heavenly moments called naps.

  1. Create a bucket list.

Try to accomplish some things that will last a life time because this may be the last time that you have a large amount of free time.

21. College food will destroy your stomach.

Until you adjust to the food, your stomach will rebel against you for the first few weeks.  You will enjoy home cooked meals after about a month of gross processed food.

22. Homesickness

You miss home terribly your first few weeks, and when you are home you will miss you second home at college.  It is a vicious cycle.

College can be one of the best times in your life, if you want it to be.  You can only get out what you are willing to put into it.   Memories are not made by staying to yourself, but rather breaking out of your shell and constantly pushing the limits.  These are just a few things that I wish I knew my freshman year.  Now I think I am going to get back to enjoying my last few semesters of college. 

Signs You are a Social Introvert

One the downsides to American society is the peculiar way in which we think that everything should be able to placed within a certain category and in so many words fit into a simply “box”.  This includes simple to complex traits such as gender, sexual orientation, race/ethnicity, place of origin, and so much more.   This topic became especially apparent to me during my usual break room conversation the other day.  It all started when I was telling someone a story about my trip to Chicago and an awkward, but funny moment that occurred during a conference that I attended.  I afterward stated, “this only happened because I am shy and awkward”.  One of my coworkers proceeded to laugh and told me, “nope I think you are an extrovert there is no way that you are shy or introverted by no means”.  This made me realize for the first time that some people actually think I am extroverted.  This is actually far from the truth for those who meet me in an everyday setting that happens not to be my place of employment. I realized at this point that even our personalities are placed within categories and boxes.  As so many other aspects within my life, I cannot place this one part of my personality into one box on a questionnaire or survey.  I am neither introverted nor extroverted.  So I dedicate this blog to all those individuals who seem to not fit into a neat clean box, and like myself consider themselves a social introvert. 

Signs that you are a social introvert:

  1. You consider yourself shy.

One of the adjectives that you consider yourself is shy, but those who interact with you daily think you are the most outgoing person in the world. The reality is that you are only outgoing because you have spent way too much time with the person, but when you are with strangers you probably say but two words.

  1. You hate to host parties

Going to parties are your best bet because you can dictate when you arrive, leave, and when you can stop being social at any given time.  When you have to wait for people to leave or entertain everyone, it is just way too much stress.

  1. Being in a room with strangers raises your anxiety for days

This is a no brainer.  Large groups of strangers are a no-no zone for you.  You avoid groups of strangers like the plague.

  1. Your favorite part of parties involves chugging a drink or dancing

You love those party games that involve little talking and more drinking as well as parties that involve dancing.  Anyway you can let loose without holding a conversation seems to be your favorite.  This helps you to avoid awkward silences and weird conversations as well.

  1. When going to a party or event you make sure you know at least one person

As long as you have one or two allies you are solid.  You can safely be in that particular environment without panicking

  1. Speaking of one person. When in college you make sure you schedule a class with at least one person you know.

Going to a small college helps because you seem to always know someone in your class, but when scheduling certain classes outside of your major you make sure that you know at least one person to avoid being alone in the class.  Plus you need someone to sit next to.

  1. You seem to have a ton of friends

Having a ton a friends and talking to different groups of people is your specialty, but you truly are only good friends with two or three people.   You have so many acquaintances to avoid places and events where you do not know people.

  1. After a huge social event you need a day of rest.

This day of rest usually included having no social contact and hibernating in your room and watching a little television.  No other humans are to inhabit your space.  Too much interaction with people two days in a row will send your anxiety through the roof.

  1. Your fun filled weekend is not the same as an extrovert

A tub of Ben and Jerry’s, Netflix, a bottle of wine, your bed, and comfy pajamas are your description of a fun filled weekend.  Compared to the big party plans of the extrovert, your plans may seem like the most boring weekend on the planet.

  1. You are good at giving speeches in the right settings

Giving a speech to a large group of people on a stage or place where you cannot distinguish faces is an easy task, but speaking in front a small intimate group is the most intimidating event in history.

  1. You are considered a comic, but reality is that it all comes down to well planned jokes and well timed responses.

Every joke and side comment that people find hilarious is planned at least a few minutes ahead of time and is always executed in a certain manner.  Most people think that you are classically comical, but reality is that you planned on that witty yet cute comment.  Irony seems to always be planned.

  1. Your are quite sarcastic, which many people take as you being sassy

Many people take your sarcasm as sassy.  In reality it is your way of dealing with social settings and too many people being in a small space at one time.

  1. Only a few people know the “real” you

Those people fortunate enough to get to know probably know way too much about you. For example, how many times you urinated today.  This seems to happen because you hide very little from these folks.  On the other hand other people think that you are a complete mystery.

  1. Your genuine opinions are shared only with your friends

You hate offending people therefore many people do not know how you really feel rather just a general statement or two about a subject.

  1. You avoid arguments and controversial topics when talking to new people

You actually love to argue but never with new people.  Arguing and debate may be one of your pass times but you keep this to an intimate group of people so that you do not sound ridiculous to total strangers.

  1. People note that you have a resting “b*tch face.

This one is my absolute favorite.  Many people think that you do not socialize to them because you are stuck up or rude.  They will also tell you that you always look really mean.  One of my favorite compliments is when people tell me that I am so genuinely nice and how mean they thought I was.   Chances are if I am not talking to you it is simply because I am deathly shy, it has nothing to do with me being rude or not liking you.  I probably have no idea how to appropriately approach the situation.

  1. At a party or huge social setting you are an observer

During parties or social setting you seem to observe how everyone else is talking, acting, and interacting. You psychoanalyze and get to know a person by observing their behaviors.  Observation is also your favorite pass time.

  1. Or worse in large social setting you retreat into your shell

If you are not observing you are numb.  This seems to be a particularly bad day for you.  You become numb and fail at socialization all together.  These days are better spent by yourself in isolation.

  1. Teacher assigned group projects are the death of you.

When working in a group that is assigned by the teacher or professor you are bound to be placed in a group of students that are complete strangers to you.  You do not know any of these people.  This makes the group project so much more awkward to take over and control.

  1. Speaking of control, You love to have control over your environment

Losing control of your environment or having no control is not something that you can handle because than you cannot make those well planned jokes or know how to appropriately act.

  1. You are an amazing actor/actress

You seem to fit the mold that people want to see or expect.  When people think that you are the life of the party that is what you become.  You fit the personality of the group.  If it is a group of complainers you have a complaint.  It seems the easiest way to deal with social settings, but those close to you always knows the true you.

  1. You blog or indirectly post on social media most of your opinions

This allows you to be heard yet to never directly attack someone’s beliefs or opinions.  It gives people the option to avoid your opinion or take the time to read rather than shoving it down the throat of every person you interact with.  It also gives you the power to pick and choose who is able to see and read your opinion.  Again you stay in control of the situation.

To all those people who fall neither in the category of introvert or extrovert understand that you are not difficult just simply normal.  Never let people put you in one category or another because everyone is simple unique.  Being different from one another is what most of us pride ourselves in being.  So to all those social introverts like myself keep being your social yet shy self.

Why Model UN is the Ultimate Club to Join in College

Becoming a Model UN nerd was most likely the second best decision that I have made in college. As ludicrous as it may seem, it has really impacted my life more than most people would imagine. There is so much room for growth and understanding that you cannot gain through other groups and organization. Here are just a few reasons that everyone should try Model UN regardless of you major.

1. Public speaking becomes your best friend.

Some of the quietest people I have ever met are in the club and are some the most eloquent speakers that you would ever meet. One learn how to give an educated and through speech in front of hundreds of strangers that you will spend only a few days with. You speak about the most mundane items such increasing speaking times and how many questions people should ask you. It allows one to gain confidence in speaking in front an educated group of peers. This is a skill that will extend into many aspects of the future. It is a lesson that anyone entering the work force should be able to do. Gaining the confidence to speak without stuttering and nervous ticks is one of the amazing advantages of joining model un.

2. Becoming worldly.

Model UN students and club members are able to step outside of their shoes of being an American citizen and embrace a new history and culture that is not always familiar to your life. Within varies conferences, I have been able to represent the United Kingdom, Pakistan, Tunisia, and Russia. All of these countries have different perspectives and policies on many issues that are available within the work of the United Nations. By representing these countries, one is able to learn about the culture and the areas that they need to improve. It allows one to understand the culture and the struggles, and recognize the importance of small growths and improvements in developing countries. It allows one to see the problems faced globally, and the issues that is affecting the world today.

3. Meeting amazing people at conferences

Since I have started participating in Model UN, I have attended four big conferences. Each conference I was able to meet people from all across the United States. These people have become friends and connections that span globally. These people become some of the people that you may work with in the future. It is expanding your network, and opening doors you have not arrived at yet. It is probably one of the perks of conference. Not only do you meet these people, most have common interest and majors.

4. Experience dressing in Business attire

At the beginning of my experience as a Model UNer, the worst part was the dress code for conference. Most conference requires western business attire. This usually includes a professional look and the need for a lot of black, gray, and navy. The silver lining of the situation is that it is practice for the real world, and the expectation of most modern employers. They expect you to have class and dress well for any occasion. Although it is not the greatest waking up an hour and half earlier to make sure that your clothes have no wrinkles and you look the part, one is able to know the feeling of being in business attire for more than eight hours. Now as I am about to experience my last couple of conferences, I have come to enjoy dressing the part and have incorporated many of the items into my daily wardrobe such as my blazer and pencil skirt.

5. Learn to properly Research

Research is one of the most valuable lessons that can be taught during the experience. Finding out other nations foreign policy is not always a simply task. It is analyzing speeches, actions taken about the countries, treaty agreements, and press releases. Sometimes in a different language. Researching can be rather difficult especially when a country does not have much on the topic. There is finding concrete information and there is trying to figure out an appropriate position based on the research that you have found.

6. Writing ability maximized

The entire conference has two main components or skills that used throughout the entire time, speaking and writing. There is so much writing involved within the conference. From position papers, to resolutions, and even reports, there is no escaping at least some writing during the process. It shows a new form of writing that is not common within the academic setting. It is creative and unique but also straight to the point. It includes things minimizing an entire foreign policy to fit on one sheet of paper, resolutions with perambulatory clauses and operative clauses, and reports that are similar to those made in a business setting. Needless to say, you either learn to write or adapt to a new writing style.

7. Model UN family

One of my favorite aspects of the whole experience would be your fellow students becoming your family. We all travel together, share beds, and create memories that will last a lifetime. These people will always have those inside jokes that no one will understand, and a connection that can never be described. In the process of fixing the problems that face the world you are bonding, making inside jokes, living life to the fullest with people that may not have been your best friend before the conference. We all become one dysfunctional family that has contains the serious one, the inappropriate one, the know-it all, the person who stays in character, the social butterfly, the resident alcoholic, the comedian, the “leader”, the outspoken one, the newbie, and so many more personalities. As you get back to campus, you realize that you have friends outside of the your “usual” group, and people that you created some of the greatest college memories with, the memories and stories that you will talk about for years to come.

8. Traveling

The aspect of traveling to big cities across the world is another highlight of the conference. Traveling from Toronto, New York, Chicago, among many other cities is another great perk of being a part of the club. You are able to explore cities in a way that you will never be able to again. Eat amazing food. During one conference there was a major protest within the city only a block away from the hotel that we were staying at. We were able to be a part of history and experience what the real world is really like.

Being a Model UN nerd has changed my college experience in so many ways. It has opened up so many opportunities that range from meeting new people, seeing new places, and experiencing life around the country. It has helped decide and change my path in the future and learn so many new skills that will carry with me into the real world. Model UN may not be for everyone, but it is worth given a try. It will be an unforgettable experience that will be discussed in the years to come.

25 Reasons being A Big is the Best.

Why becoming a Sorority Big can be the best part of Sorority life?

Being in a sorority has many perks such as leadership experience, tons of t-shits and hoodies, friends that will last a lifetime, finding your future bridesmaid, mixers, and in general sisterhood. One of the best parts of sisterhood is becoming a Big. A big-little relationship is unique and special bond that can never be described, but is simply amazing. Becoming a Big is a part of growing up and learning responsibility as well as sharing a bond that goes beyond the normal role of friendship.

Here are 25 reasons why being a Big is the best part of sorority life:

  1. Having someone that looks up to and you and always thinks that you are awesome.
  2. Someone to take to dinner when it seems you have no friends
  3. Someone that compliments your outfit or you on a daily basis
  4. She laughs at your ridicules jokes
  5. Always having someone to go out and party with
  6. Spoiling someone like they are you actual child
  7. Crafting really cool things for the person because they are awesome
  8. You will have someone that will always take your side
  9. Someone to sing in harmony with you during car rides
  10. having someone that you can be your absolute self with because she will love all your flaws
  11. Having someone to tell all your mistakes from last night
  12. The only person who knows all your dirty secrets
  13. Someone who will hopefully give you a fabulous G-little.
  14. Having someone to spread the knowledge and experiences gained through college
  15. Someone to talk to when it seems your world is coming to an end
  16. Having someone that believes in you no matter what.
  17. Having a future Brides maid.
  18. Someone to share a pint of Ben and Jerry’s because you cannot do that on your own.
  19. Someone who reminds you about the important parts in life
  20. Someone for you to take care of when they have had too much to drink
  21. Being able to share the sorority experience with.
  22. Someone who is your best friend that you will forever call you little one
  23. Your family away from home
  24. The person that reminds you to be spontaneous
  25. The person who brings down to earth when you need it, but also places you on the higher pedestal.

Being responsible for a new member and to call her little is a privilege that is not granted to everyone. It is a special connection that goes beyond the normal call of friendship. I could not imagine life without my little. I shall call her little and she shall be mine and she shall be my little!